My Crazy Box

achievementmicoo

Reblog if it’s ok for people to give you $599.99

sailed-0ut

Please don’t hesitate

imhellafit-personal

1 penny below reporting limit for the IRS… I see what you did there

shysweetthing

(Don’t give me $599.99)

That’s not the right IRS rule.

$599.99 is the amount below which a business does not need to issue a 1099 to a contractor who provides business services. The contractor still needs to report the income on their taxes.

The correct number for the IRS rule for money that is gifted rather than received in a business transaction is $13999.99–more than that, and the recipient has to pay tax on the gift and report it to the IRS. Less than that, and there’s no taxation or reporting requirement.

If we’re choosing amounts on the basis of IRS limits, give these people $13,999.99.

Go. Do it.

bootyisagirlsbestfriend

Reblog if it’s ok for people to give you $13,999.99

clockmongler

thatdiabolicalfeminist

One maladaptive coping mechanism that turns very toxic when you’re not defending against abuse is to read any uncomfortable situation as a deliberate personal attack, and sometimes extrapolate one incident into a whole pattern of malicious intent.

Examples:

“Hey, I have a headache, could you please lower your voice a little?”
- “FINE I guess I just won’t say anything at all!”
“Hey thanks for inviting me, but I’m not feeling well, so I’m sorry but I can’t make it. Maybe (x day) instead?”
- “Sorry for asking! I guess I’m just too needy for you!”
(Someone forgets to call you back.)
- “Yeah I don’t think we’re friends anymore, she acts like she hates me.”
“Hey, what you just said about me was literally not true. Why did you say that?”
- “Right, I’m just a piece of shit who should never talk at all I guess!”
“I don’t really feel like sex tonight.”
- “Sorry I’m so repulsive to you!”
“You really hurt my feelings. Why did you do that?”
- ”Go ahead and just break up with me, I know you’ve been wanting to.”

This kind of response escalates an interaction from a two-way conversation about a specific problem into a fight about your own self-worth. Instead of reponding to what’s actually happening or interrogating whether an attack was intended, this response immediately changes the conversation into a defensive argument where the only relevant question is if you’re an okay person that people care about.

Like I get feeling this kind of reaction, I get having a knee-jerk response of fear and shame and self-loathing. Sometimes when you’re feeling vulnerable it is very, very difficult not to read super far into anything negative. Sometimes it just reflects off all your internal fears and amplifies inside of you until a polite “no” feels like everyone you’ve ever liked is telling you they hate you.

But it is possible, with some work, to separate your feelings from your actual knowledge of the situation. It’s possible to feel one thing in your heart and still recognize with your mind that the reality is different. You can learn to notice the difference between someone actually attacking you and something just feeling like an attack because you’re extra vulnerable.

You can also learn not to react based solely on your feelings. You can learn to take another person’s actual words and actions into account and respond based on what you think - not just feel - their intent actually was. That work is as necessary as it is difficult.

People need to be able to tell you things that aren’t overwhelmingly positive without you making them feel guilty for saying anything and treating their concerns as an attack.

Otherwise, you wind up in a position where they can’t be honest with you, can’t say no to you, can’t tell you when something you do hurts or scares them, can’t point out worrying things as friends do to take care of each other. An overzealous defence mechanism turns a loved one bringing up their needs into them comforting you yet again and reassuring you you’re not a bad person.

This habit interacts especially badly with the way many other trauma survivors are terrified of upsetting anyone – when your reaction to them bringing up problems or saying no is consistently disproportionate, they may find it easier to just do what you want even against their own will.

It is possible to deal with those awful feelings and get the comfort you need without resorting to lashing out when you feel bad. It’s okay to be honest about the fact your emotions don’t always line up with reality so people know what you’re going through. It’s okay to just ask for the emotional support you need or for confirmation that they mean what they say.

You may even find that when you make a continuous effort not to treat these uncomfortable experiences as crises, they deescalate and you wind up feeling more secure each time.

Look, this coping mechanism, like many forms of manipulation, is a useful survival tool in the context of an abusive relationship where you really are being attacked insidiously, and where you can’t just ask for comfort and expect to get it. But if you are no longer in that kind of situation, it’s time to reevaluate how useful it is to you and what other strategies might be better for you and the people you love.

clockmongler

gluten-free-pussy

Depression Humour is such an age specific thing like i was walking down the street and narrowly avoided getting hit by a speeding car and a middle aged woman said “You could’ve died just now!” and i said “yeah if only.” and she just stared at me in shock. Like yes i hate being alive but I’m going to get these jokes in before i permanently clock out of my shift

nutellaninja2202

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brief-interface

Reblog this if its okay for your followers to introduce themselves to you.

cacti-tea

Just come to my ask box and tell me stuff about yourself. Your pets. Your favorite music. What you had for breakfast this morning. Literally anything you want, I love making new friends

taylorswiftville

I MADE ACTUAL FRIENDS DOING THIS BEFORE

darkfairywitch

Yes yes yes!!

sapphosaint

punkfaery

casual reminder that i wrote an 90-page novel when i was eight about a deranged pensioner who wants to take over the world and return everything to “The Good Old Days”, and which included such choice elements as

a really neurotic vegetarian vampire
alice cooper, for no apparent reason
an evil supermodel called miranda goth
three nine-year-olds climbing mount everest in diving helmets
the entire population of scotland appearing out of literally nowhere to help defeat the antagonists
“you can take our lives but you cannot take our trousers"

punkfaery

a few people have been asking me to post extracts from this so uh

here’s something

jewishdragon

#are you Douglas Adams?

timeisamanysplendoredthing

THIS is the kind of writing I aspire to

ziraangel

cryopearl

Everybody that reblogs this by May 10th will get a traditionally drawn character based on what I think you look like after scrolling through your blog

shunthewitch

I think he will have stopped because of how many fucking people xD

cryopearl

nope, im doing everybody that reblogs this! the only thing its doing is making it take a bit longer. i could easily put out 20 or 30 of them in a day, maybe even more if im feeling productive (i draw a lot in my spare time), so really, its just giving me more practice, which is good. im not stopping because of the numbers!

ziraangel

adoerable

homestuck, for all its insanity, still has the best quotes, my favorite being “the circle of stupidity is complete”

jeon-wonwon

mine might be that one karkat rant like ‘your vehicle is parked squarely in the ‘nobody gives a fuck’ zone’

drkotobuki

“Yes sir we are literally under siege by planet fucking Jupiter.”

visualvexation

“shit. let’s be santa”

moirails-for-life-yo

“i’m 13 u egg”

yd12k

That might be the saddest thing I’ve ever heard get said.

curlicuecal

Well you see, the explanation is perfectly simple and scientific. It was because shut up. Shut up is why.

femme-fatigue

I’d throw it in the lava but that would be a waste of melting

tchaikxvsky

steelsamuraiofficial

“How old are you?”
“6”
“Goddamn”

thealienbae

Kick it barak

homestuckcharactergifs

TIME TO RENDEZVOUS WITH MY HOMIE KILLA AND DROP THE SPECIAL SCIENCE ON HIM

triclops

My personal favorite:

cowards-sorcery

time to fly up away into the sun you fucknig piece of gargbage

notsoheadless

KARKAT: THAT SOUNDS SUPER! DOESN’T THAT SOUND SUPER KANAYA?
KANAYA: No
KARKAT: I THINK I SPEAK FOR KANAYA WHEN I SAY IT SOUNDS Really Fucking Super.

acidsbeats

“You have a hat full of bomb, a fist full of penis, and a head full of empty” is my favorite tbh

noodlenumber

apollochrist

bakrua

hey im about to head to bed but i’d like to give a heads up: i am 18 yrs old and if that makes you uncomfortable you are totally within your rights to ask me to unfollow! again:

if the fact that im 18 makes you uncomfortable, please ask me to unfollow!

i wont ask for a reason beyond it. you dont even have to say that’s why. just throw me a message asking me to unfollow and i totally will.

i want underage people to feel safe on this website, and i promise there is no hard feelings whatsoever. your happiness is important and you have the right to feel comfortable

also if you’re 18+ you should reblog this bcos we have a responsibility to make people (minors/underage ppl) comfortable and safe and you never know, someone under 18 might want you to unfollow but is too scared to ask.